Tumblr is definitely worse with the wank. Here's a good take on why tumblr and the likes of it actually want the conflict: https://mikkeneko.tumblr.com/post/169325179934/how-web-20-and-especially-tumblr-is-ruining

I spend most of my regular fandom time on tumblr though I try to stay clear of any ship tags. It's not easy to find new content if you don't follow actively posting and reblogging people but I don't want to see all the hate in the ship tags. It's definitely harder to make friends there or to have a proper conversation. I hate how it's so public, so I rarely post anything myself, just reblog all the shiny that catches my eye.